How To Have A Stress-Free Morning Routine With Kids
Use these easy tips to have a stress free morning routine with kids! School mornings as a working mom are difficult and often rushed. These back to school organization tips them run a bit smoother. With a bit of planning and though, busy mornings can see just a little bit less chaotic!
I’m pretty sure that the hour between wake up and school drop off is every parents’ nemesis. While there are some back to school organization tips you can try, truly it’s chaos. I’ve actually questioned if it’s possible to have a stress free morning anymore.
Sometimes it seems like mornings for kids just never work. In the end, everyone is thrown into the van with a store-bought muffin, half-dressed, and shipped off. And you end up at work still feeling an adrenaline rush, frustrated and most likely starving. Sound familiar?
I’m no stranger to a crazy, stressful morning routine! Sometimes, getting the girls out of the house on time is the bane of my existence. Getting my two-year-old dressed is the equivalent of wrestling an alligator and the baby screams the whole time because she wants to be picked up.
Then, once we arrive at pre-school, all the other little girls’ hair is in cute braids or pigtails and mine is… well, this:
So, as I attempt to gather her crazy (non-brushed) curls into a horrifically messy ponytail I can’t help but laugh.
The truth is, you’ve got to pick your battles. And my daughters’ hair isn’t one of them.
The hours before school are crazy, for everyone! But there are some steps you can take for a more stress-free morning.
What Our Stress Free Morning Routine Looks Like:
For my girls, they do much better with a little calm downtime before school and less rushing. Even if it means me waking them a half-hour earlier.
It took us a while to find our perfect, system on school days, but we’ve got it down now. Believe it or not, we actually do a workout before we ship off to school and those days tend to be the easiest ones! We need to leave the house by 7:45 am which is no easy feat, but it works for us.
Below is kind of how our morning’s breakdown, with a few tips and notes in there!
6 am House Wake Up
6-6:20 Reading/Coffee/Morning Play
6:20 Breakfast
6:40 Get Dressed/Organized (clothes, dishes, etc.)
6:45 Workout/Playtime
7:30 Get ready to leave (I swap clothes, get jackets, change a bum, etc.)
Notes: sometimes my two-year-old sleep in until six thirty-ish. On those days I let her sleep and she eats her breakfast in the gym while I work out
In the past six months, we’ve tried a lot of different things. Regardless there are a few tricks that work no matter what. These tricks allowed for a smooth, stress-free morning routine in which we left the house without me wanting to rip my hair out – win.
Clothes
So many people will tell you to chose clothes the night before to avoid a stressful morning. And this may work for yourself or the baby, but it most definitely does not work for a two-year-old.
My “work clothes” are pretty easy (workout clothes) so I dress un under five minutes. For my toddler, it’s a bit different.
What I do instead is allow her to hang out in her jammies for a bit and then I present her two of each item (two undies, two pants, to shirts, etc.) and ask her which she wants to wear.
Giving her the choice gives us far fewer tantrums and thus stress-free kids! Sometimes she attempts to run away instead of getting dressed and I let her. I find ignoring this makes it easier. I do a workout and she gradually gets dressed and plays.
Quick Mom Morning Hack: Keep a brush in the car. At least get to school then worry about hair. It’s getting out of the house that’s hard!
Food For A Healthy & Stress Free Morning Routine
I may not care about my daughters’ hair going to school, I do try and brush it but I damn well care about what she eats for breakfast!
No matter how rushed we are, sugary cereal, pop tarts, or Timmies muffins aren’t an option for me.
Instead, I plan this the night before (you can check out these make-ahead breakfast recipes here). We alternate between these five things on school mornings:
- Overnight oats
- Smoothies
- Homemade cereal and berries
- Chia pudding
- Avocado toast & hard-boiled eggs
Aside from the smoothie and toast, I make everything in advance. Thus, even when we’re rushed we’re off to a healthy start.
The Backpack
For us, it’s not so much about homework yet as it is extra clothes, school blanket, stuffies, etc. I pack it all the night before and put it in the van. Seriously, in. the. Van.
This way I don’t even have to think about having everything. This is my number one tip for a stress-free morning routine because I despise scrambling around trying to find things while rushed.
In the wintertime, there are extra mittens, a hat, and snow pants in the van also. Just in case. In summer, it’s sun hats and sunscreen. And always, homemade, simple hand sanitizer!
While I would love to say I’m always on the ball of this, I’m not. Which is why having a little emergency stash in the van helps.
But put the backpack in there the night before. That way, you know no one has gone in and grabbed something and nothing is missing- stressful morning avoided.
Get Up Ten Minutes Earlier Than Your Kids
I know you all hate to read this one. I like to sleep as long as possible also. But suck it up and roll out of bed. #sorrynotsorry
These ten minutes (just ten minutes!) give you time to grab a coffee, check your phone, pee and brush your teeth.
They are well worth it to save on the morning routine chaos.
Keep Filled Water Bottles In The Fridge
I am a crazy person about water and keeping hydrated (read my tips to boost your water intake!). Which means forgetting water bottles just can’t happen. These are my favorite water bottles and each one of us has one now!
Fill up the water bottles, place them beside your breakfast and you won’t forget them!
Never forget the water!
Keep It Simple
Aside from breakfast, getting dressed and out the door, we don’t have a lot to do. This makes it easier to avoid a stressful morning.
We do like to read a few books before breakfast and get in a workout but those are both negotiable.
In terms of the extras, plan for them:
- take your showers at night so you just have to straighten/brush hair
- Get up a few minutes earlier if you’re makeup person (I’m not).
The simpler you keep it, the easier it will be. Figure out what’s negotiable in the morning (messy hair don’t care!) and what’s not. Then work out your mornings around that.
And don’t beat yourself up- adapt. Everything with kids is up in the air so do your best to roll with it… as long as you get out the door 😉
An Update On Our Stress Free Morning Routine
My girls are now 2 & 4 and I have early morning clients. Which means we need to be out the door by 7 am (you read that right!). It’s early and we’ve switched up our routine but we still rock it.
I no longer do a workout until after drop off in order to have more time. We wake up, eat, get dressed, go. Period.
Having a plan and being on top of packing makes the morning easier. Plus, we do the same thing every day. Having a system makes it easier for kids.
Are their tears sometimes? Oh, yea. But mostly we rock it.
It can definitely get hectic but that’s the gist of it. Some days we get dressed in the studio between sets and other days we have time to clean up dishes, empty the dishwasher, etc. We make it work.
Don’t forget to pin these tips for a stress free morning routine!
Coming off summer and into the back to the chaos of back to school can cause a lot of stress. But with a little planning, prioritizing, and thinking ahead it’s possible to create a somewhat stress-free routine. Pick your battles, have a few backup plans, and make back to school life a little easier.
Hats off to your level of organization! Pretty impressive! These really are excellent tips!
Thank you! I thrive off of organization lol
Good tips! My oldest is 11, and with 5 other kids I gave up on trying to even get their clothes to match years ago. Haha. As long as they’re dressed! Thankfully in life there are seasons, and that goes for parenting as well. 😉
FIVE OTHER KIDS?! You’re my hero lol Exactly though, matching clothes is truly the least of my priorities. Seasons in parenting- that’s the best way to put it!
Great advice! It’s been a long time since I have had to get kids up for school (plus, we homeschooled, but still, we had a schedule), but your plan sounds totally doable!
It’s doable for us so that’s what matters!
These are great tips! I can always use new ideas for making our mornings less stressful!
Right?! It’s never fun when everything is chaos
This is great! I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old, and with working from home, a part time job and everything else I am always looking for better ways to organise and find more time in my days.
I started getting up earlier (before my 2 littlies) to get some work done but now my son has decided 5am is a great time to start his day! :O
Back to the drawing board.
Wow, it sounds like we have the EXACT same lives haha. Yes, I can’t get up before my one year old because she’s a 5:10am riser. So, uh, no lol I find just doing as much as I can the night before makes an insane difference and makes it so I’m not eye twitchy lol
I really like how you offer your toddler choices. It gives them a sense of control over themselves yet you still can manage their life. Balancing boundaries and independence is key, and you have that down pat! Great read! Thank you.
Thanks so much for the kind words! I just found that she responded SO much better when she had a choice. It makes the morning (and every other time) sooo much smoother
Thank you!
Great list! It’s so true that we need to implement responsibility into our children early on. I am a single mother with three children under the age of 5.The evening and morning routine is important. In the evening, children collect backpacks and prepare clothes. They Wake up in the morning, wash their face, brush their teeth, make the bed, etc. We use the Manini app and we have set up a morning and evening routine. Children see tasks, complete them, and mark them as completed. It is a huge relief for parents and children when the morning starts easily.
You. Are. A. Rockstar. Honestly, I feel like you NEED routine at that point because otherwise, the chaos gets too overwhelming. I thrive off routine personally and I find the house is just better structured if we know what we’re doing when lol. It’s pretty much the only way we get everything done in the morning.