Last updated on December 7th, 2017
Dear Fitness World: Screw You
I've been part of the fitness world for a while now (learn more about me here) but more and more I believe it's flawed. The advice geared towards women and new moms especially is insane and truthfully I'm a bit frustrated.
Dear Fitness World,
Without further adieu, screw you.
My name is Shelby, strength coach, nutrition coach and lover of all things lifting. I have been part of you for the better part of a decade now and am beginning to suspect that you've lost your way.
You see, my goal is first and foremost to help people. Help them look better. Help them feel better. Help them perform better. Help them gain confidence. And yes, help them find some balance on this crazy journey that is life and workouts.
I used to think these were your goals too.. but now I'm not so sure.
You see, because I care so much about people (as people and not as clients), every week I set aside a few hours to read up on everything changing, improving and “being discovered” in the elusive fitness world. I always strive to learn more, be more, help more. And naturally, you provide me with all the resources I need: articles, videos, intelligent minds and helpful hints.
But lately… lately all you've done is piss me off.
You've bombarded me with all the things I need to be doing in order to be classified as “healthy”. I mean, I consider myself pretty well off. I eat pretty well, I lift three times per week, dance twice per week and am generally active throughout the day.
According to you I should be:
Making use of a lengthy warm up and getting in my prehab
Pre-workout foam rolling
Sticking to the “core lifts” at all costs
Making sure to incorporate power training so I can make use of my strength
Using “accessory” work to bump up my weak spots
Rocking some high intensity cardio
Using longer cardio to keep up my hearth health
Foam rolling post workout
Stretching post workout
Completing some “Active stretching” on non workout days
Getting my required sleep
…all in one week. Each week. Every week.
And this is where I give you the middle finger.
To hit all of your required check boxes of weekly necessity, I would have to live in the gym. And while I joke about doing just that, I. Can't. Even.
And to top off my point, I am sure you'll take the time to remind me to “work smarter, not harder”.
Unfortunately, if I'm given a list that long, smarter versus harder doesn't really apply. Instead, it screams DELEGATE! Should I pay others to do my parlof presses for me then??
Am I giving you the impression that I am a slacker? Looking for any excuse to get out of plain old hard work. Or do I come off as not loving fitness? Activity? Life? Because that's hardly the case…
You see fitness world, this past year I became a MOM. And that brings on a whole new game.
As a mom, my gym hours are numbered. My active recovery consists of doing glute bridges with a one year old and chasing her while she learns to move. Stretching in peace is non-existent and since my daughter comes to the studio with me, power anything is a bit dangerous.
On top of mommyhood, I run my own business. For those of you in the boat with me, you'll know that showing up, working and leaving isn't exactly how your day goes. In fact, when I'm not seeing people in person I am programming, filming, editing, planning, tracking. And o course attempting to learn something from your profitable knowledge. But don't worry, I'll put all that aside to get in my required thirty minute foam rolling.
And what grinds my gears even more is that I love workouts! I am one of the few you don't need to convince to do them, I'll participate winningly. So how does the rest of the population feel then if I feel so annoyed, overwhelmed and frankly pissed off at your persistence?
The truth is fitness world, I love you. I love that you have so much to offer, I love learning new, practical time ways to be active. And I love what I do.
But telling me that unless I accomplish the above nine suggestions into my workout regime I will be imbalanced, weak or otherwise unworthy…
Well, then I stand by my screw you.