Three Techniques Every Mom Should Know When Dealing With Toddlers
As mama bear of a gorgeous little monster, I am well aware that my day does not always go as planned. In fact, it rarely goes anywhere near my perfectly crafted outline (hence the mommyfails!). From spills to tumbles and meltdowns to naps sometimes the best you can do is throw up your hands and sigh.
Recently however, I was reading a book (alright, it was a romance novel and it was amazing) about a marine who had lost his way, comes back to his hometown yadda yadda (it’s a romance novel so I’m pretty sure you can guess what happens :P).
Anyways, even though the marine had lost his way his training was still ingrained in him. It was second nature. And one of his mannerisms stuck with me.
Since so much of our days are left to chance as a mom, there’s no point in having a fit every time something random occurs. I promise your child will find ways to surprise you, like thinking you had the playroom baby proofed until your toddler makes a “game” of jumping between the couches like the kitty).
Instead, make use of the three techniques below. I promise you’ll need them. Literally, Every. Single. Day. From the crash you hear in the other room while cooking to stepping in something wet and not knowing what it is – use the techniques.
Technique #1 Analyze
Analyze whatever situation you come across. Stepped in something wet? Look down and determine what it is, water from a puddle is a bit easier to deal with than paint from crafts. Whatever is occurring, analyze it. Your babe standing on a chair reaching for the cat (yes this happened yesterday!)? Analyze it. How did she get the chair, what can you say so she doesn’t spook and tumble…
Figure out the entire situation before you go barging in like crazy mom or sit on the floor sobbing.
Technique #2 Adjust
Sometimes the “critical” situation can be solved just by adjusting one or two minor things. Like giving berries to a toddler freaking out because her breakfast is taking too long. Think of your biggest concern right now and adjust what you need to fix the problem.
Technique #3 Adapt
This one is classic army style! Adapt to whatever surroundings your toddler throws you into. Plans are a great example, sometimes they simply don’t happen despite your best efforts. If your day has slowly become a shit show, sometimes it is better not to pick up every piece and force the outcome but change the ending instead. Just roll with it. Life is far less stressful when you learn to adapt to whatever situation your toddler deems important.
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So there they are, three techniques that no mom can live without (in my opinion). As mama bears we’re always on our toes and thrown into the unknown, clearly with these techniques we should feel more like bad asses.
Looking for more parenting tips? Check out 7 Lessons I Learne From Baby Led Weaning and Why I Don’t Baby Gate My Daughter